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How To Develop Your Response-ability

We often refer to ownership of a task when taking responsibility in a work setting. It’s hard to think of a job that does not involve personal responsibility for delivering, providing or making something happen. However, a different but related meaning emerges when you literally take the word apart. Response-ability then becomes taking responsibility for yourself and how you do things.

Here are some situations where your response-ability might be tested:

  • You’ve been overworked for a while. Small, seemingly trivial incidents tip you over the edge regularly and you blow up with people. You are angry.
  • Your colleague keeps taking time off work that impacts on the workload of the rest of the team. It’s not how you would do things. You are irritated.
  • You provide clients with reports by agreed deadlines. Then you don’t get any feedback despite repeated attempts to get a response. You are frustrated.
  • Your annual performance review is due. You can’t stop thinking about all the potential criticisms you might face. You are fearful.
  • A colleague gets to go to an important conference yet again. They always seem to get the nod over you. You are jealous.
  • You become obsessed about wanting that promotion or that role. You must have it.
  • You love the technical side of the team’s work. You immerse yourself for long hours without noticing. It gives you pleasure.
  • You have no social life. Work interferes negatively with family life. You can’t sleep. Your team complain you have no time for them. You are in pain.

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These scenarios reflect the six tyrants referred to by the ancient Greek philosopher, Plato – anger, fear, jealousy, desire, pleasure and pain. His mantra was know yourself. He wanted us to think more, so that we would lead a good life and not one dominated by the six tyrants.

We’ve all met people who have become defined by their anger (‘it’s management’s fault’) or by their fear (‘I’m not good enough’). They are often fighting some perceived injustice where the tyrants rule their thinking and it leads to blind spots. Response-ability, in a more productive and positive way, involves weakening the grip of these tyrannical thoughts and letting go. How can you do that?

  1. Pausing – you will build patience and resilience by adopting consistently mindful practices like meditation and exercise.
  2. Noticing – you will regain perspective and allow these tyrants to pass by observing what’s happening, accepting it and stepping back.
  3. Empathising – you can alter your perspective and give yourself choices in how you respond by checking out your assumptions about a situation or another person’s reality.
  4. Questioning – you will be less judgemental taking a learning-mindset through showing curiosity.
  5. Asserting – you will overcome a negative response to fighting an injustice by standing up for what you see as just in a calm and authoritative way, without trampling on the rights of others and genuinely understanding their viewpoints.

Don’t let the thought tyrants personify you or dominate your thinking so you lose perspective and control of your self. Work on your inner balance. Take control of your response-ability to develop your responsibility.

David Shindler

David Shindler

David Shindler is founder of the Employability Hub online learning centre, Director of Learning to Leap and widely respected in the industry as an employability expert. David understands the ‘soft’ skills, attitudes and behaviours needed by employers and can help people improve them to get the job they want.

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  • EmilyReply

    Hi David!!
    Thank you for sharing this post!! I identify myslef with a couple of the 6 tyrants, I run an online bussines about how to make moccasins, so I work full time and I still feel that is not enough time, so I completly understand your point on this post. I wanted to share my experience. Ok, so I run a moccasins bussines, full time job AND I’m a mom, so you can imagine. I tried at first to work at home, only doing the online stuff, getting appoinments for my coworkersw to go to, while I took care of my 2yearold baby. This system seemed to work for 2 weeks and on the 3rd week I realized that was doing 60% good as a mom and 50% good in my job. So for me it was time to do something about it and time to do it fast becasue time is money and my baby keeps growing too. I started to focused on what I can handle on my own and what I can delegate. Basically I had to be more realistic about my responsabilities. Now, it seems to work, feels good and hope to keep it!!

    • David ShindlerReply

      Good to hear, Emily, and thanks for sharing your story! Being realistic about what you can handle at any one time is really important.